How to know if you will ever succeed in life

You’ve failed many times before.

It’s harsh
when people start doubting you. It’s even worse when you start doubting
yourself.

Will you ever succeed?

Will you ‘make it’ to the success land?

Don’t worry; you don’t need to read
a crystal ball to predict your future.

You need a single trait that any
person can develop. And it doesn’t take years to develop the trait.

You can develop it right here, right
now.

Growing up, I was a stubborn kid.

I used to desire absurd things and
did everything I could until I get what I wanted.

When I meet relatives who only saw
me as a kid, they always ask…

“Oh dear, are you still that stubborn?”

Then they go on telling about a
story of my stubborn behavior that even I don’t remember since I was a kid back
then.

Of course, I was immature. I’m
grateful for how my parents handled me and changed me into a more mature
person.

I don’t make absurd demands anymore.
But there’s something I haven’t changed about myself.

For years, I suppressed my stubborn
nature. Because people said I must get rid of it.

It made sense. So, I suppressed my
nature to become a civil person.

But then after several years, I
reconnected with my inner child. I listened to it without judgment.

Something magical happened when I listened to the child
inside me.

I accepted
it.

Instead of using it to demand silly
things, I use it to persist and drive myself towards my ambitions.

The
Art of Persistence

Most people don’t persist.

Most people don’t know what they
really want in life.

Most people say they want something
but they don’t really want it.

The reason people give up is not
that they lack something in them.

People give up because they never
took the time to ask themselves what they truly want and why they want it.

Before you learn to be persistent, learn to let go.

Let go of all the things you don’t
want bad enough.

Protect your persistence for 1–3
things at a time. All the other things are distractions.

If you commit to everything, you don’t commit to anything.

Persistence doesn’t come to you by
wishing for it. You need these elements to evoke it:

Desire

Know the difference between ‘meh’
desire and STRONG desire. Is your desire as strong as your willingness to live?

When you desire something strongly
enough, you’re willing to make massive sacrifices and go through any change no
matter how hard it gets.

Clarity

Know what you want in life. Don’t
set vague ambitions. Don’t have one-word desires like “Money”, “Fame” or
“Freedom”.

Define in details what the word
means to you. The more you define, the clearer you get.

Purpose

Why do you want what you want? The
first answer is never your core why.

Uncover the hidden layers of your
purpose. Dig deeper and ask yourself the question of ‘why’ 5 or more times.

Commitment

When you have your core ‘why’, go
all in. Get to the point of no return. Commit 100%.

When you make a pre-commitment, you
don’t depend on motivation or willpower.

Plan

Set intentions. Have a plan of
execution.

Your plan doesn’t have to be perfect
or rigid. But you need a direction for smooth execution.

Action

Just do it whether or not you feel
like it. Honor yourself and do the thing you said you’ll do.

Protect your time and energy to
execute your plan. Make a daily success checklist and turn daily actions into habits.

Investment

Invest in the knowledge, skills, and
connections you need to reach your goals.

Become a lifelong learner. Practice
the skills you need to get what you want. Establish relationships with people
whom you can co-operate and synergize with.

Protection

Protect yourself from discouragement
coming from failure, criticism, and negativity. Avoid it or be indifferent to
it.

Protect your mind from all the
distractions in life. When in doubt, eliminate.

Responsibility

Life happens and things will get in
your way. What would you do in those situations?

Either you blame and complain or you
take charge and get things done in whatever little time you have.

Belief

Believing in the face of defeat is
what will get you moving. Because when you lose hope, you can’t execute your
plan of action.

It’s easy to get going when there is
momentum. When you lose momentum, use the power of belief until you gain it
back up.

The
Missing Factor

You may follow all the habits of
successful people. You do everything to reach your goals.

So what’s the missing factor?

The missing factor is time spent
persisting.

Different goals need a different
level of persistence which also depends on how far you are from your goals.

Some people may need 1 year while
some may need 10 years to reach the same goal.

Don’t let the time discourage you. Time will pass anyway.
Run your own race and keep taking bold actions.

Almost all successful people
persisted for years before they became successful. They were not born
successful. We only got to know them AFTER they became successful. We never saw
what went behind the scenes.

So if you’re not successful today,
it doesn’t mean you don’t have what it takes to succeed.

You have everything it takes to get
what you want.

You CAN succeed.

The only question that remains — will you choose to succeed?

Success
is a result of daily actions…

Design your daily checklist for high
performance and success.